HI THERE! I have been away from my blog for so long! Life just ran away with me and I couldn’t find the time to sit down and write. I was part of an exciting dance performance as part of the ‘Basic Space Arts’ Festival which has taken up a lot of my time recently (new post all about the performance coming soon!) But I am incredibly happy to be back! I’m hoping to dedicate more time to this little internet space of mine.
So, for this ‘You Got This’ post I wanted to share with you a story I heard on Gretchin Rubin’s Happiness podcast that has stuck in my mind and really started to change my way of thinking. You can listen to the short episode here and I would definitely recommened her podcast if you are looking for an uplifting listen.
The fable she shared was an old Chinese fable that goes as follows…
Good luck? Bad Luck?
There once was a farmer. One day the farmer’s only horse broke out of the corral and ran away. The farmer’s neighbours, all hearing of the horse running away, came to the farmer’s house to view the corral. As they stood there, the neighbours all said, “Oh what bad luck!” The farmer replied, “Perhaps.”
About a week later, the horse returned, bringing with it a whole herd of wild horses, which the farmer and his son quickly corralled. The neighbours, hearing of the corralling of the horses, came to see for themselves. As they stood there looking at the corral filled with horses, the neighbours said, “Oh what good luck!” The farmer replied, “Perhaps.”
A couple of weeks later, the farmer’s son’s leg was badly broken when he was thrown from a horse he was trying to break. A few days later the broken leg became infected and the son became delirious with fever. The neighbours, all hearing of the incident, came to see the son. As they stood there, the neighbours said, “Oh what bad luck!” The farmer replied, “Perhaps.”
At that same time in China, a war broke out between two rival warlords. In need of more soldiers, a captain came to the village to conscript young men to fight in the war. When the captain came to take the farmer’s son, he found the young man with a broken leg–delirious with fever. Knowing there was no way the son could fight, the captain left him there. A few days later, the son’s fever broke. The neighbours, hearing of the son’s not being taken to fight in the war and of his return to good health, all came to see him. As they stood there, each one said, “Oh what good luck!” The farmer replied, “Perhaps.”
Everything that seems, on the surface, to be bad luck may be good luck in disguise. And everything that seems fortunate may not be as it seems.
This REALLY got me thinking. I for one am always quick to label what happens throughout my life into two categories. A good thing (good luck) or a bad thing (bad luck), there is no in-between. I didn’t get the job I wanted, BAD! I found 5 quid on the street, GOOD! I missed my train, BAD! I won the lottery, GOOD! And so on and so on….
Although in some circumstances it is difficult to not feel instantly sad or happy about what happens to us, it is important to remember that all we have is this singular present moment in time. We cannot predict the future or how this circumstance will play out into good or bad luck, who knows? This fable for me highlighted the importance of looking at life from a higher perspective. We can’t see into the future to determine whether each circumstance is a stroke of good or bad luck, all we can control is how we REACT to it. I guess it’s that classic idea of never knowing what’s around the corner, good or bad, so we should always make the best of each circumstance we find ourselves in. Seeing life in the black and white way of everything either being good or bad can cause a whole lot of unnecessary stress and worry.
The next time you are quick to class something as ‘bad luck’ it may help to look at it from this perspective to help ease the feeling of frustration or sadness it can bring. You never know what will happen in the next second, minute, hour or years!
I always think about those people who consider themselves a ‘lucky’ person. I wonder whether they just always look for the positivity in each circumstance and open themselves up to more opportunities for good things to happen to them. Maybe, it’s nothing to do with luck at all? So this week I am going to consider myself a ‘lucky’ person and see what happens. Join me!
Who says what is good or bad luck? Is there such a thing as a lucky person?
I would love to hear your thoughts!
I wish you a wonderful week ahead!
YOU GOT THIS!