Welcome to week 2 of ‘You Got This’. I started a new weekly series on my blog last Monday in which every week I will set an intention or a piece of motivation for the week ahead. A friendly weekly reminder that ‘you got this!‘
This coming week I’m going to focus on…
‘The power of compliments’
Compliments are actually pretty difficult. Whether this is receiving them or giving them. I am always one to instantly dismiss a compliment if I receive one. The typical response to something such as ‘Your hair looks nice today’ would be ‘Really?! OMG no it doesn’t. I got caught in the rain and my fringe won’t do what I want it to do and blah blah blah…’ What I’m really saying is I can’t possibly accept something nice about myself and must put myself down immediately. Why do we always do this?! Equally in turn sometimes giving a compliment is hard to do especially to someone you don’t know very well or a complete stranger. I think so many compliments in my head but sometimes feel embarrassed to say them out loud to the person. The brain plays its tricks on you and tells you they’ll think your weird, or that you’re lying or you’ll appear too gushy.
Recently I was on the tube and as a woman got off she pointed to the girls opposites shoes and exclaimed ‘Great shoes!’ before jumping off onto the platform. I looked at the girl and she beamed. It was a real moment of seeing the power of a compliment. Especially off a stranger. That woman only said two words and had taken 1 second out of her day but I could see it made a lasting impact. Maybe that girl had been having a rough morning and it was the first time she had felt good that day. Or maybe she was on her way to something she was nervous about and it gave her a little bit of added confidence to face it. You never know what power your compliment may give someone. It may even turn their whole day, week, year, life around?
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
Giving a sincere compliment and receiving one is a perfect two way street to happiness. The person receiving it feels happier and equally the person giving it. What’s a better gift than giving someone that confidence boost we often find so hard to give ourselves?
“Compliment people. Magnify their strengths, not their weaknesses.”
So this week I am going to aim to say more of my compliments out loud and proud. Lets take that little extra time out of our day to boost someones mood with a honest compliment and if your are feeling brave a strangers! Stop someone on the street, in the local shop or on the bus and let them know if you like something about them. You can run away after so they don’t feel embarrassed but honestly I know it will make their day! You will definitely brighten up that persons mood that moment and who knows what else you may inspire from one little compliment. Also, I am going to accept any compliment given to me. That person has taken the effort to say it so lets believe it.
I wish you a wonderful week ahead!
YOU GOT THIS!